I am sorry to lecture you again, but no one submitted anything for today. However, good news, I come bearing the gifts of facts! Three cheers for learning.
The title is Here for a Reason, no I am not just here to puke facts and data on you, nor are you simply here to read them and go about your day afterwards.
Here for a Reason is a song I hear a few weeks ago that really touched my heart. (By the way guys, the reason I am so passionate about suicide prevention is because suicide has affected my life in more than one way.) Here for a Reason (click on the link to hear it) is by a Christian rock band called Ashes Remain. It’s religious, but you don’t have be to Christian to value and take the deeper meaning of the song with you. (I am not shoving Jesus down your throat that is at the end with a Bible verse.)
Anyway, the song talks about God and how great He is, but it also points out that every human (regardless of race, gender, religion, etc.) is here for a reason. In other words, your life has meaning, your life has purpose. You are not worthless, useless, a waste of gravity; even if your thoughts and the world lead you to believe that you are. Every moment of your life is so special and important, maybe not to you, but to someone in the world you are the world; each suicide closely affects at least 6 other people.
Let me throw some facts at you:
- There is 1 suicide for every 25 attempted suicides.
- Nearly 30,000 Americans commit suicide every year.
- Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death for 15 to 24-year-olds and 2nd for 24 to 35-year-olds. (The number one is car accidents and it is estimated that a quarter of car accident deaths are suicides.)
- On average, 1 person commits suicide every 16.2 minutes.
- 1 in 65,000 children ages 10 to 14 commit suicide each year. (There are 36,004,639 children in the US alone that is that is 553 kids that commit suicide in America.)
- In the world there are around a billion children, so according to this about 15384 commit suicide each year.
So what to do with these facts? Reach out and spread awareness. Don’t go around making suicide jokes (IT’S NOT FUNNY!!!) Don’t go suggesting to someone to kill themselves (In America that is a crime.)
When someone comes to you with thoughts and feelings that are around to explain, don’t ignore them.
Do you know what it is like to have heaven and hell collide inside of you? Do you know what it’s like to have a knot inside of you that makes you want to cry, scream, and punch a wall, yet all you can do is sit there and feel as your throat tightens and your eyes burn from the tears that you will never shed? Have you ever had that feeling? It doesn’t feel good.
Why am I bring this up? Because you are here for a reason (I am talking to everyone here, not just those suffering from suicidal thoughts.) You are here for a reason, maybe it’s to make someone else feel like they have a reason to be here. Maybe, the reason you are here is to help break the stigma and the taboo that society has when it concerns suicide and other mental illnesses.
Oh, but Lesley, people don’t talk about it. How can we do anything for them?
Of course people don’t talk about it. But it doesn’t mean that they are lying about not needing help.
No we’re not liars, we’re actors- pretenders. Every one of us. We act okay, we pretend to be fine, because we don’t want to be a bother to others, we don’t want to be a nuisance to the ones we love. We act and pretend in front of those we care about because they have problems too, and we don’t want to be another.
Society has taught us that we should not bother someone else with our own problems. So we keep our thoughts hidden and in the dark, but society does not understand that if we spend too much in the dark we become scared of the light. People struggling everyday want to see the light again, we are here for that reason. To be someone’s guiding light (it’s okay to be your own guiding light.)
I say this not just for someone struggling but for everyone. You are here for a reason.
If you or anyone you know is having suicidal thoughts please call the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273 TALK (8255) or text 741741.
If you are not in America click here it has hotlines for almost every country in the world and in your native language.
I am available as well, but please don’t leave tonight, don’t leave tomorrow; hold on, don’t quit. Have hope for the future and know that you are a gift.
“Every time that you wake up breathing
Every night when you close your eyes
Every day that your heart keeps beating
There’s purpose for your life”
~ Here for a Reason by Ashes Remain