This is my last post for suicide prevention. After this we’ll be back to our regular scheduled program (me writing whenever I have time.)
Today is World Suicide Prevention Day. I wanted to share some signs that someone might be considering suicide.
If a person talks about:
- Being a burden to others
- Feeling trapped
- Experiencing unbearable pain
- Having no reason to live
- Killing themselves (this one isn’t for attention; if someone tells you that they are considering suicide; LISTEN TO THEM!)
Specific things to look out for include:
- Increased use of alcohol or drugs
- Looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online for materials or means
- Acting recklessly (having sex with strangers, jaywalking, etc)
- Withdrawing from activities
- Isolating from family and friends
- Sleeping too much or too little (On sleeping too little Rantings of a Mad Woman No. 2)
- Visiting or calling people to say goodbye
- Giving away prized possessions
- Aggression (make the ones we love angry at us so we don’t have a reason to live.)
People who are considering suicide often display one or more of the following moods:
- Loss of interest
Pay close attention. This is a a list of signs, but sometimes there is no sign. I had no idea he was suicidal tend I got a phone call that said he was dead. Sometimes the people who se
em happy and joyful and well put together are the ones who are anything but. Not always, most of the time there are signs and warning red flags, but not 100 percent of the time.
For those of us who are forced to hid behind a smile, I know it hurts. I know it sucks, because suicide is a subject of shame for our families and society. There is nothing to be ashamed of. The words suicide, depression,and mental health issues hold such as strong stigma that people cringe, avoid talking about it and change the subject when it is brought up.
Tomorrow is September 11 (for those who don’t know what that date means for us in America, look it up.) So why do I bring it up in a post about suicide? Well, after 9/11 America went into something called War. You know where people die, see awful things, and if you are lucky to come back alive you suffer from PTSD, depression,alcohol and drug abuse, etc, etc, etc and yet the stigma is so bad that veterans are not getting the mental health they need (enter Lesley!) Seriously, this is what I want to do when I finish school.
Anyway, every day 20 to 22 veterans commit suicide. The men and women who risked their lives come back home with little to no support. To get to see a VA doctor (the people who are hired to help veterans) it takes three to eight weeks; that is wrong no one should wait that long to be seen.
We need to fix our system, our society. We need to break the stigma that suicide is a coward’s way out, that depression is fake, and self-harm is a way of seeking attention. Bully shit! (Sorry, but it is!)
For those of us suffering alone, drowning in our pains and thoughts, the storm will pass eventually, my love. Roses can’t expect to grow without a little rain.
Believe me when I say, you are not alone. There are people around the world who are suffering like you are; there are people who like you are fighting everyday to stay strong and stay alive. There are people out there who can and are more than happy to help you.
If you or anyone you
know is having suicidal thoughts please call the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273 TALK (8255) or text 741741.
If you are not in America click here it has hotlines for almost every country in the world and in your native language.
Tonight stay alive; I will see you tomorrow in the morning bright.
“All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured soul and they will never notice how broken you really are.”
— Robin Williams